The tools of forgiveness & gratitude.
The 4 basic steps to forgiveness that will change your life forever
With over forty years of helping people manage their stress, we have observed that true health, happiness and well-being comes when you are at total peace with yourself in all aspects of life, both past and present.
Graf Stress Management uses energy work through muscle response testing to narrow down and clarify the stress. We teach about the principles of forgiveness and expressing gratitude.
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Forgive aloud
There is something about the spoken word, we need to hear ourselves actually say the forgiveness aloud for it to happen.
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Be specific.
We must be specific as to who we are forgiving and what we are forgiving them for.
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Put it in the present tense.
Put the forgiveness in the present tense, “I forgive”.
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70x7 principle.
When Peter asked the Lord how often he needed to forgive, do you remember the Lords classic reply?
You can feel peace from the release of heavy burdens by overcoming the negative effects of stress in your life.
People say, if I forgive that means I approve of what they did, and I don't condone what they did...so I'm not forgiving them.
The Lord did not condone the crucifixion-but He forgave those who crucified Him. Likewise, we don't have to condone wrong doing but we do have to forgive wrong doers. We have to separate the sin from the sinner.
The Lord said, "I will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it is required to forgive all men".
"Therefore look gently on men
And even more gently on women.
Although they may go a little wrong,
Do not condemn them.
Above all, consider not merely what they have done,
But why.
God alone has the power to look into a human heart,
To judge actions and motives and regrets.
He alone knows not only what one has done and why,
But what one has resisted doing and why
Man's responsibility is to forgive:
Only God has the authority to judge."
— Robert Burns
True Inner Peace
The Graf Stress Management technique was founded by Jan M. Graf. Jan has observed that true health, happiness, and well-being come when you are at total peace with yourself in all aspects of your life, both past and present.
Being at peace comes from living up to our value standards, repenting when necessary, and forgiving.
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Value Standards
We all have value standards pertaining to every aspect of our life. They range from minor things such as how we tie a tie, or how we fold a towel, to major values such as honesty, integrity, and morality. As we live up to our value standards, we are at peace with ourselves, but if we don’t live up to our value standards, we begin to feel guilt and may even begin to punish ourselves physically.
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Repentance
When we are living up to our value standards we are at peace. None of us are perfect, so we find ourselves betraying ourselves by choosing to do things below our value standard. The way to relieve this guilt is through repentance. Repentance is a valuable tool in the process of peace.
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Forgiveness
Throughout our life, we’ll encounter people who offend us. When we forgive, we are not saying that what they did is correct. We are allowing them to be less than perfect. Forgiveness is for us. We also need to forgive ourselves when we live below our value standards as part of the repentance process.
Testimonials
B.J.
“I am truly at peace with myself. It shows in all aspects of my life and I am very grateful for Jan Graf and his Stress Management. I have found that life is much more fun and enjoyable than before I learned about forgiveness and other things that I have learned through Stress Management. I have referred close to, or more than a hundred people to Stress Management and most of them have achieved the same result and could write a similar recommendation.”
C.C.
“As we worked with Jan, we found tools to help us in every area of our lives. Our personal development, our relationships within our marriage, family issues, financial concerns and past relationships all were improved in direct correlation to the information we received with Jan Graf and Graf Stress Management.
As we have continued to practice this work within our daily lives, we have found a peace and confidence beyond description. We have shared what we have learned with other loved ones and associates and have had the privilege of witnessing the blessings in their lives, from overcoming marital problems, to dealing with troubled teens, to improvement of their health. We continue today to use the information we learned through Graf Stress Management and encourage everyone to find out for themselves the tremendous benefits they also can enjoy. am truly at peace with myself. It shows in all aspects of my life and I am very grateful for Jan Graf and his Stress Management. I have found that life is much more fun and enjoyable than before I learned about forgiveness and other things that I have learned through Stress Management. I have referred close to, or more than a hundred people to Stress Management and most of them have achieved the same result and could write a similar recommendation.”
A.D.
“I How can I properly thank you for your valuable help? I feel at peace with myself. I explained to my husband the session I had with you. I have been putting into practice the truths I have learned. John likes the positive change. Just in one week our relationship has become stronger and more enjoyable.
Thank you so much for helping me. Our whole family is benefiting from my visit to you.”
K.S.
“The Doc taught me the principle of forgiveness as it relates to us psychologically and how it affects our physical bodies. As I started living the principle, great things started happening to me. As I got rid of the stresses in my life, my health problems disappeared.
The changes were astonishing. I lost 65 pounds in eight weeks, without dieting, medication or exercise. The diabetic and high blood pressure problems went almost immediately, likewise my leukemia problems.
The Graf technique works. It has helped me, my family and my friends. As we take responsibility for the stresses in our lives we can enjoy peace and good health.”
C.T.
“I would personally like to thank you for all that you have done for us. My husband is well again and we have a very sweet precious little spirit from heaven. As you know, we had been trying to have another baby for 4 years. The day my husband saw you for the problems that he was having due to stress you discovered why I wasn’t getting pregnant. According to my doctor I got pregnant that night.
I had no idea that stress could cause so much physical pain. I honestly feel that a miracle was performed and I thank you for being a part of it.”
FAQs
How did you discover this type of work?
In the book Peace through Forgiveness Jan, shares how he went from being a Chiropractor to helping people manage their stress through what he calls the Graf Technique. We encourage you to read it and find out if this is something that interests you.
Do I really need to be seen in person for a first visit?
Although it may be a great distance for you to travel for the first visit it is an important step to understanding the technique.
Do you teach this technique?
Currently, there are no plans to teach this technique.